• November 24, 2020

Is Your Love Also Your Best Friend

Valentine’s Day is celebrated on February 14 in an interesting contrast to Valentine’s Day celebrated on the same day in countries of the northern hemisphere, such as the United States, for example.

So I ask the following question: after all, can a boyfriend be a friend? The fraternal feeling that unites people, in fact is not conditioned to kinship or intimate relationship, because it is a form of partnership that goes beyond dividing common interests. It is as if the other were his mirror and continually reflect a good and pleasing image, besides giving him a sense of comfort and security that we do not always find in the arms of a father, a husband or a blood brother. It is someone who allows us to be ourselves, for it accepts us without judgments. It intervenes when you feel it is necessary, but it does not claim to control our lives.

That it is there when we feel we need it and it moves away when it realizes that we are on our trail again, for wanting our victories to be really ours and for our mistakes to be fixed by our own conscience.

Friend is one who does not get our attention or emotional blackmail. Therefore, he does not give us unnecessary or inopportune advice, much less judge all our actions and thoughts. It is that person who simply enjoys our company when we are there, but who certainly lives his life to the fullest in our absence.

Obviously he misses us, but he does it with a smile on his face and a sweet memory and he does not sketch out any thoughts of guilt or anger, wondering why you’re not there with him. Of course friends usually share interests, but that is not a prerogative. You may like someone who has nothing to do with you, and yet there is this mutual respect, this joy in seeing each other, this sense of peace and comfort when you are together, even if you do not talk.

 

Unlike those who only live together, silence among friends is not disturbing. Just looking into the eyes of your friend you know that everything is fine. Words thus become redundant.

So if you can find a friend in your boyfriend or girlfriend, then know that you have found your soul mate and so you will be celebrating two very special things today. However, if this is not the case, analyze in your own behavior because there is between the two this barrier that prevents them from being more than just lovers.

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