An enchanted magic, the same as when you met and fell in love. But to continue to be happy it is important to know how to communicate adequately, and to overcome the quarrels that are part of the life of a couple …
For a good understanding, awareness and assertiveness are fundamental ; the first serves to realize one’s own needs, the second to express them with clarity and calmness, rather than with ambiguous messages. If something of your partner has bothered you or made you feel bad, tell him, because he didn’t always do it voluntarily. In this way you will avoid the vicious circle of retaliation that can turn a trivial episode into an avalanche.
Emotions, if expressed badly, can become incandescent and burn; moreover when discussing in anger it is easy to lose control and words leave their mark; they say terrible phrases that are not even thought of, but can tear the relationship apart. It is much better, instead, after a quarrel, to let things decant, avoiding feeding resentment and annoyance. Almost all women have the bad habit of wanting to fix everything right away, while men need time to manage their emotions.
Irony and cheerfulness create a relaxed atmosphere where space is left to the game, which is fundamental in the couple’s relationship. The happiest couples are the ones who have a sense of humor. Ironing up after a fight, helps make peace and break up conflicts. But be careful the border between joke and sarcasm is really thin, it takes sensitivity.
Pamper yourself to find yourself
After getting rid of anger, a great way to soften the atmosphere and rediscover harmony is to make love, pamper yourself and kiss. But also doing something together like cooking or walking, because physical fatigue removes negative emotions and makes them more available for reconciliation.
The rules for resolving disputes
- Don’t insult yourself, because you only increase the conflict
- Criticize the behavior and not the character of the person
- Don’t involve other people in disputes
- If you are angry, take your time
- Don’t stop while talking
- Don’t raise your voice
- Don’t go to sleep without having clarified
- If you have injured your partner apologize